Lee Welch: how I write

Lee Welch previously shared with me about her version of Mr Collins. Today she was gracious enough to share about her writing process. [Read to the end for a chance to win a copy of Mr Collins in Love]

Your day job is also as a writer. How do you switch from “Work Lee” to “Writer Lee”? Does the day job help or hinder your writing?  

My day job pays the bills, which gives me the freedom to write what I want, such as a book where Mr Collins is the hero. Mr Collins in Love will never be a bestseller because too many readers only want handsome heroes with abs and sexy banter. Of course, I LOVE it when one of my books sells well, but paying my mortgage isn’t dependent on that, and that’s a great place to be as a writer.

Amen, what a relief. Are you a plotter or a pantser? How did you adjust your usual style to write Mr Collins in Love? 

I’m a bit of both. I plot many things. This involves me doing a bunch of research then lying on the sofa for weeks, apparently staring into space. BUT I find too much plotting to be fatal because then I know everything and can’t bring myself to write the story. I need certain goalposts to be fixed in position but some things left unknown; then I start to write.

I’m not sure I have a usual style, because I’ve written four very different books (for example, one contemporary, and one fantasy romance set in alt-Victorian England). Style, for me, is all about character. How does this character think? What metaphors might occur to them? What might they notice/not notice? I certainly read a lot of period material to get the language in Mr Collins in Love right, as well as studying how he speaks in Pride and Prejudice.

What is your editing process? Was it different for Mr Collins in Love? 

I tend to follow the same process for all books and Mr Collins was no different. I write. The next day, I read over what I wrote the day before and edit it. Then I write on. From time to time, I read from the beginning to check the various story arcs feel right. When I’ve finished the first draft of the complete manuscript, I leave it for a few days, then print it out or send it to a tablet – anything so long as it’s different to the laptop I write on so I can get as much objectivity as possible. Then I read it through, making notes about things I need to fix. I’m quite a good editor of my own work; I can be ruthless if I see something doesn’t serve the story. Then I work on the second draft, often adding words to round out characters and situations. I might do a few passes and new draft versions. Once I’m happy that it’s as good as I can make it, I send it out for beta reading. I have a few trusted readers and find it’s good to make them as diverse as possible as they notice different things. Then I rewrite based on their feedback, and, finally, the book is ready for my editor.

What was it like finding out Mr Collins in Love was in the New York Times Top Ten Romance for 2025? 

Oh wow it was fantastic! It’s such an accolade! I raced down the hall to tell my family, and then raced back to dance around the living room. Then I rushed out for champagne. 

Being a writer is damn hard. It’s not well-paid, often lonely and tech bros steal our books to train their hateful AI slop machines. If I get a win, I’m celebrating!

Oooh yes, I saw your website post about the AI and have been stung myself.
All your works are set in different “worlds”. How much research / world building do you do prior to writing? 

Typically I do about three months of research before writing, but it can be more, and I generally continue to research while I’m writing. It’s really important to me that the world of the story feels real, whether it’s a fantasy world, our contemporary world, or a historical one. 

I discard most of what I learn because it doesn’t serve the story, but research is never wasted because it allows me to write with confidence and I think that helps readers feel ‘safe’ with me as a writer. For example, they don’t know how many notes I made on Regency gardening when I was writing Mr Collins in Love, they just know the descriptions of his garden ‘feel right’ or they don’t consciously notice them at all because they feel seamless. That’s what I’m aiming for with all this research and world-building – to put together something the reader barely notices because they simply accept it as ‘right’.

Thank you for your time and sharing your process with us, Lee! I really enjoyed this novella and recommend interested readers purchase it from Amazon or most other online bookstores (print available from Amazon, audiobook also available).

If you’d like to win a free ebook of Mr Collins in Love, please email Lee at leewelchwriter@gmail.com before the end of February 2026 with the subject “JASANZ entry for Mr Collins ebook”.

For more info on Mr Collins in Love and Lee’s other books please visit https://leewelchwriter.com/

Ultimate Emma Casting

The Amateur Austenite’s season of Emma is drawing to a close. For our final episode Rachel and I debated our preferred casting for an adaptation of Emma, based off the adaptations we’d discussed. I won’t build tension by starting with the most insignificant character, here’s my list in descending order.

Emma

The title character was always going to be a challenge. There’s something to enjoy in (almost) every depiction of her. My first Emma, Kate Beckinsale, is perfect, but she wasn’t my choice.
I cast Alicia Silverstone from Clueless (1996) because, amongst the many blonde Emma’s, the excellent facials of Romola Garai and the more subtle ones of Ana Taylor-Joy, Alicia portrays an innocence in Cher’s character that makes you love her and believe any nastiness is unintentional.


Knightley

Who to cast for Emma’s love interest? Perhaps the ageless Paul Rudd to match Alicia Silverstone. When you think about it, the age difference doesn’t seem so bad when the guy never looks any older. On the other end of the spectrum John Carson (Emma 1972) with his grey hair was tempting too.
Instead I took another swing for a modern adaptation and chose Angela Wong Carbone, the lesbian Jordan Knightley, from the webseries The Emma Agenda. I’m a sucker for a masc lesbian, this one is soft masc but I’d love to see her in a suit. There’s something so caring in Knightley allowing Emma to realise her own sexuality, despite instructing her in other areas.


Harriet

It was essential to have a Harriet that’s prettier than Emma, it’s literally in the novel. My choice may be predicated that this Harriet was prettier than her Emma.
I cast Debbie Bowen from the 1972 Emma. She is appropriately beautiful and there’s a simplicity to her Harriet that, with another performer, could have easily tipped into stupidity.


Mr Woodhouse

Emma’s father is an important presence in the novel or any adaptation but I’m not sure whether who plays him makes much of a difference (feel free to argue with me). None of the actors stood out to me.
Again I went off script and chose the Mr Woodhouse from Murder at Donwell Abbey (novel by Vanessa Kelly), because he is engaged to Miss Bates. It makes up for the rude comment in the 1972 version, treated as a joke by everyone, asking if Miss Bates would be the next person to marry.


Miss Bates

And what of Mr Woodhouse’s bride to be you ask? Tamsin Greig portrayed a lovely sad Miss Bates which unfortunately is very different to her character in the novel, Miss Bates is invariably happy (which is why Boxhill is such a gut kick). I want her to do more Austen.
My choice for Miss Bates was always going to be Miranda Hart (Emma 2020). How could it not be?? How she manages to not steal every scene is a mystery to me. At the time of recording I’d recently finished her I Haven’t Been Entirely Honest With You and I think I might be a little obsessed. Rachel and I long ago decided we’d love to see Miranda Hart play almost any Austen character, or indeed every Austen character.


Jane Fairfax

The guiding principle for me in choosing the actress to portray Jane was elegance. It’s mentioned so often in Emma’s description of her, it cannot be avoided. The two actresses I was choosing between are not only beautiful, but have an innate elegance that speaks volumes while their character is silent.
It was the battle of the 1996 Jane’s; Polly Walker and Olivia Williams. Eventually I settled on Polly Walker because she’s almost unrecognisable as Lady Featherington in Bridgerton, a woman who confidently wields her power and wears flashy colours, someone for Jane Fairfax to aspire to. Jane is pushed by the tide of others opinions, not so Lady Featherington.


Frank Churchill

Jane deserves a better man than Frank Churchill for her husband, so I was careful not to select someone who gave manipulative vibes. My Frank just had to be hot and charming.
Prior to recording with Rachel I had whittled it down to two candidates; Rupert Evans (2009) and Raymond Coulthard (1996 ITV). During our conversation I settled on the latter, the scene where Emma imagines him stepping out of the painting cannot be beaten.


Mrs Weston

Franks stepmother and Emma’s friend / governess had to feel motherly.
I cast Samantha Bond (1996 ITV), probably because I struggle to picture the other actresses who played the role so obviously they didn’t leave a lasting impression. Samantha was also Maria Bertram / Rushworth in the 1983 Mansfield Park. What if Miss Taylor were Maria Bertram in disguise, hiding from her torrid past? She deserves a redemption and a man who will truly love her.


Mr Weston

Mr Weston exists like Mr Vernon in Lady Susan; he “lived only to do whatever he was desired.” He is there to give Mrs Weston a home and the love she deserves, to be Frank’s father and throw parties.
To me Mr Weston is an insignificant character, in Sam Brooks Em he never appears on stage and that is how I would have him in my adaptation also.


Mrs Elton

Perhaps Mrs Elton should go further up the list since I bothered to cast her but you could argue she’s not as essential to the story as other characters. There were so many excellent Mrs Elton’s; the looking down her nose-ness of Fiona Walker (1972) and Tanya Reynolds; the annoyance of Juliet Stevenson (1996) and Lucy Robinson (1996 ITV), even the strangely compelling hipster Allie Hawkins (Darcie DeLong) from The Emma Project.
I cast Christina Cole (2009) as my Mrs Elton. She’s Emma’s equal; doesn’t seem older like some of the others, just as attractive, plus the necessary haughty with a side of gaudy. I wonder why this actress was also chosen to play Miss Bingley (a lesbian one!), whether she enjoys portraying those type of characters or it’s something casting directors see in her because I’d also love to see her in Emma’s role.


Mr Elton

Last, and certainly least, we come to Mr Elton. This character can give a lot of ick for the way he behaves; his fawning over Emma, his refusal to hear her no, his dismissal of Harriet and how he parades his wife around. It’s easy to compare him to other slimy clergymen like Mr Collins but the essential fact of the character is that he’s hot. All the girls around Highbury are gagging for him and that’s why he thinks he’s got a shot with Emma. Another hot clergyman is Edmund Bertram from Mansfield Park, so hot that he has Mary Crawford questioning herself and considering marrying a mere clergyman.
I cast Blake Ritson as Mr Elton, it was a lovely coincidence that he stays with his wife from the 2009 Emma. He can sometimes give an ick but we’ve seen him hot as Edmund in the 2007 Mansfield Park (when they deal to his fringe). Let Mr Elton be hot! I amused myself imaging that he was in fact Edmund living under an assumed name. He and Mrs Weston (Maria from a different adaptation) are siblings who are forced to pretend to be strangers, just to add another layer to the story.

If you enjoyed this you might like listening to The Amateur Austenite or perhaps you’d like to debate the casting with me directly?

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Emma Webseries

A brief overview of the Emma webseries we discussed on The Amateur Austenite Podcast from best to worst.

Title: The Emma Agenda

Details: 2017, 2 hours (60 videos), University

Verdict: Even with low budget & sound issues, this felt genuine with emotional depth. Characters are lovely, awkward and real. Plus it’s queer!


Title: Emma’s Journal

Details: 2013, 2 hours (19 videos), University

Verdict: Feels like real people being awkward in front of a camera.


Title: The Emma Project

Details: 2013, 5 hours (75 videos), University

Verdict: Forced acting and the heavy religious undertones were not a winner despite the excellent decision to have it framed as a psychology project (and following a lot of the standard vlog things).


Title: Emma Approved

Details: 2013, 6 hours (86 videos), Office

Verdict: It may be award winning but it’s also far too polished to feel real. It’s long and wildly unrealistic (not to mention unprofessional).

Mr Collins in Love: author interview with Lee Welch

Lee Welch is a fantasy/historical romance writer based in Wellington. Like most Wellingtonians, she works for the government, but has a role inline with her interests: writing and editing. Mr Collins in Love is her first foray into Austen fiction, and she’s clearly done a great job; it was ranked as one of the top ten romance novels of 2025 by the New York Times. Lee has graciously agreed to answer my burning questions about her version of Mr Collins. [At the end there’s a chance for you to win a copy!]

Mr Collins, let’s be frank, sucks. What inspired you to reinterpret him? What influenced your interpretation of him? Why decide to give him love?

He doesn’t REALLY suck! Jane Austen simply misunderstood her own character. Hee hee, it still gives me a mischievous thrill to say that! 

But seriously, I too was once a Mr Collins hater like every sensible person. Then, one evening I was idly rewatching the 2005 Joe Wright film with Keira Knightley as Elizabeth Bennet. Tom Hollander plays Mr Collins, and, I feel, brings a certain earnest sympathy to the role, which was lacking, for me at least, in David Bamber’s portrayal of the character in the 1995 BBC TV series.

There’s a scene in the 2005 film that inspired me. It lasts a second or two. We see Mr Collins at Mr Bingley’s ball. He’s looking for Lizzie and can’t find her, and there’s this brief moment where he looks so lost and confused. I felt for the man, so obviously out of place in one of the greatest love stories ever told. 

I thought; why shouldn’t he have a happy ending too? Why shouldn’t he be the hero for once? Because everyone deserves love, right? And because I write m/m romance (i.e. romance between men), it was obvious to me that his happy ending wouldn’t be with Charlotte Lucas, but with someone else entirely. And it all went from there!

How did you decide which details from the novel to include/recontextualise? Do you think Austen would have enjoyed this reinterpretation of her work and what kind of enjoyment do you imagine she might have received from it?

My first act was to jot down all the information Austen gives us about Mr Collins in the book, including some of the things he says. Then I started playing with what we know about him and trying to reinterpret those things from a sympathetic point of view. Why, for example, did he make no “useful acquaintance” at university? What would it have been like to have been brought up “under the guidance of an illiterate and miserly father”? I tried to use all the details that were pertinent to Mr Collins, while including none that didn’t centre him. That, for example, is why Lizzie doesn’t appear on the page in my book, because frankly, she’s not that important to him or his story, whereas Charlotte must appear on the page because he marries her. She’s important to him because her presence in his house will affect the man he loves.

The hardest detail for me to recontextualise was a line in Mr Collins’ letter to Mr Bennet after Lydia has run off with Wickham. Mr Collins writes “The death of your daughter would have been a blessing in comparison to this.” That’s quite a thing to say and it took me a while to come up with a way to interpret that in a charitable light! I think I managed it but of course readers will have to judge for themselves.

I’m afraid if the real Jane Austen read my story she’d be horrified and offended. Mr Collins, in love with another man! That love returned! She was a woman of her time, and a Christian, and respectable people didn’t approve of such things back then. 

If she’d been born in our times, I expect she wouldn’t have minded about Mr Collins being gay, but she might have felt I’d been rather kind to her odious little clergyman. 

Let’s talk about Jem, the “love interest”. Jem is a difficult character for the reader to understand. Does this reflect Mr Collins own struggles? Was it important to you that Jem belonged to a different social class? It seems like Jem understands who he is, and who Mr Collins is, in a way Mr Collins doesn’t – how/why? 

Is Jem difficult to understand? Of course it WAS intentional for Mr Collins to sometimes be confused by Jem and his actions. To my mind, Jem is very clear in his motivations and intentions: he’s had a hard life. His father died. His brother was a bully. People thought him ugly and said so. One person, and one person alone, showed him friendship and loyalty – young Master Willie, our Mr Collins. It’s telling that when he’s in trouble, Jem goes to Mr Collins for help. They trusted each other once and in the book they learn to trust one another again.

I did contemplate having a love interest for Mr Collins who was of the same social class, but the fact that Austen tells us he made no acquaintance at university kept prodding me. Since he found it hard to make friends, I felt I needed someone who would have been around him for long enough to realise that he’s a kind and decent person. So, it made sense that Jem would be working class because that way he’d be at young Master Willie’s house doing his job; they would have been thrown together.

I agree that Jem understands who he is. He’s lived, he’s been out in the world, and has clear ideas about right and wrong. He’s a gentle man who’s found the world to be horribly harsh. He wants to escape the cruelty and violence, to be treated decently, and valued as a friend…or maybe something more.

Mr Collins understands himself quite well, actually. He knows his preferences and limitations, and is justifiably proud of the way he navigates the world. The problem for him is other people! They don’t accept his preferences and limitations, so he must keep things secret and pretend all the time. It’s exhausting, and he’s constantly terrified of making a mistake. Because other people’s habits and reactions are so odd (to him) he doubts himself a lot of the time. Also, he finds the ‘helpful advice’ people give him is generally no help at all. 

I meant that Jem seems to be aware of their, presumably shared, sexual identity. Perhaps even outside of their relationship.

As a working-class boy with older brothers and other boys about, Jem would have learned about various sexual acts much earlier than friendless young Master Willie. It’s from Jem that the young Mr Collins learned that secret sexual activity was possible between men. Jem’s been in the navy, too. He’d have been aware of a fair bit of sex, though lots of men will have sex with other men if there aren’t any women around – it doesn’t mean those men are “gay” (not that they’d have used that word in Mr Collins’ time!) and Jem wouldn’t have assumed so. He knows there are other men who aren’t interested in women, but I don’t think he thinks in terms of “identity”; he just knows what he likes, and he isn’t interested in finding anyone else.

In any case, the book is told solely from the point of view of Mr Collins, and he has never really discussed sexuality with Jem, beyond them both setting a couple of simple limits when they were young. Mr Collins never questions Jem’s preferences; he simply accepts them, as Jem does his. I think the lack of interrogation is something they both very much appreciate; how wonderful to find someone who simply accepts you as you are!

As someone who is both queer and neurodivergent, it was refreshing to see some of my own identity on the page in relation to Austen. Why or how was this book important to you?

I see no reason why we shouldn’t queer Austen or any of the classics and thus get the books we hoped for growing up.

The same goes for a neurodivergent character – why shouldn’t he get to be the hero? 

It felt very important to write a book that reassesses a character who’s been ridiculed and loathed for over a century. I’m often horrified at how judgemental people can be, and how quick they are to interpret the actions of others in the worst possible light. But if you see things from the point of view of that person, you may see that they’re doing their best in a difficult situation, and that they are, in fact, a person of considerable kindness and bravery.

The fans will definitely want more. What other Austen characters would you be keen to reinterpret? Who else could be quietly queer? What’s next for you?

Ha ha, I’m afraid I’m going to disappoint readers who are hoping for a queer Marianne Dashwood or whoever. I’ve written four books and while they’re all m/m romance, that’s the only similarity. I tend to gravitate to something completely different each time.

Thanks for your time, Lee. I really enjoyed this novella and recommend interested readers purchase it from Amazon or most other online bookstores (print only from Amazon, audiobook also available). Looking forward to future Austen works from you (fingers crossed) and hopefully seeing your face at Austen meetings. 

If readers would like to go into the draw to win a free ebook of Mr Collins in Love, please email Lee at leewelchwriter@gmail.com before the end of Feb with the subject “JASANZ entry for Mr Collins ebook”.

For more info on Mr Collins in Love and Lee’s other books please visit https://leewelchwriter.com/

Is Charlotte aromantic?

Video and audio from Pride and Prejudice 1995

Featuring a (slightly modified) aromantic pride design you can get on a bunch of different items over on Redbubble

I spoke on this topic at an Austen meeting, you can read it here

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Finding a dress

I needed to find a dress for Jane Austen’s birthday party. After a costume store failed, I found a dress hire place.

Things didn’t start out great. The internet told me Attire for Hire was in the Johnsonville Mall. It was not.

Eventually after circling the block, the directions pointed across the carpark where I spotted a sign. Unfortunately once I got there I couldn’t figure out how to get into the building as the most obvious entrance showed only two businesses, neither the one I was looking for.

After a panic attack on the stairs above the car park at the back of the building, I was rescued by Judy.

This is how you get into the building:

(Filmed after my appointment) To make it easier for others to find…

Thankfully Judy wasn’t annoyed and showed me into the space. Rows of gorgeous dresses line the walls, on a shelf many sparkly accessories rest, in the dressing area there are shoes that look supremely uncomfortable.

The first dress I tried on was exactly what I had envisioned; blue, ridiculously large skirt…but it didn’t fit. Considering the thin staps and how much I would have stumbled over that skirt, it’s a good thing the back wouldn’t do up.

Judy had pulled several sparkly dresses for me to try, the bronze one though not in my colour she’d intuited I’d like after our phone call. She was right, if only it had a lower back. Each of them was gorgeous! One would need the straps adjusted and two of them I’d need to wear a strapless bra, not really an option when you’re endowed like me (despite a reduction!). Additionally, they all would have been uncomfortable to wear for several hours, especially as I’d worry about catching the beading and/or sequins.

The dress I chose was the first I tried on. Judy hadn’t pulled it for me to try originally but she grabbed it the moment I walked in. She is a genius. It’s not the huge skirt, sparkly dress of my dreams but it felt right. Not only could I move with ease, I felt like me (at one point I had a dress with a similar skirt), I felt comfortable, would be able to run around organising all evening and it was still gorgeous. Bonus points for it matching my hair. Just look how happy I am trying it on.

Running events and being a “public face” (urgh hate that term) is difficult for someone like me who prefers to sit in the back row and listen intently. Getting my hair and makeup done professionally plus picking glorious outfits eases some of the stress – not only do I not have to do all that work myself, it gives me the confidence that even if I screw up, I look mighty fine doing it!

Audio throughout is myself and Judy talking plus The Life of a Showgirl by Taylor Swift (I was in the top 0.01% of listeners in 2025)

The Gardiners knew

When the Gardiners meet Mr Darcy in the company of Lizzy at Pemberley she is relieved to have “some relations for whom there was no need to blush.” Swiftly Mr Darcy brings his sister to meet them and the Gardiners recognise “that there was no other way of accounting for such attentions from such a quarter than by supposing a partiality for their niece.” During the visit they determine that Mr Darcy “was overflowing with admiration” for Lizzy, concluding with “it was evident that he was very much in love with her.”

Mrs Gardiner wishes to know the full truth of the matter especially when it appears Lizzy has told Mr Darcy about Lydia’s elopement (a circumstance they would try to keep as secret as possible).

Oh, that I knew how it was!

Both Gardiners consider there was some sort of understanding between the two or “would never have yielded” to allow Mr Darcy to organise Lydia’s marriage.

Video from Pride and Prejudice 1995 / Audio from Cassandra by Taylor Swift

The last line of the novel is devoted to the Gardiners:

With the Gardiners they were always on the most intimate terms. Darcy, as well as Elizabeth, really loved them; and they were both ever sensible of the warmest gratitude towards the persons who, by bringing her into Derbyshire, had been the means of uniting them.

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Schrodinger’s Rapist

On a recent episode of The Amateur Austenite I spoke about my theory of Schrodinger’s Rapist in relation to Mr Elton and Mr Collins. Already similar characters as they are male, clergymen, full of themselves, and determined to do well, when they propose to the protagonist of the novel in which they exist they are both revealed to be what I call Schrodinger’s rapists.

SHELDON: … in 1935, Erwin Schrodinger, in an attempt to explain the Copenhagen interpretation of quantum physics, he proposed an experiment where a cat is placed in a box with a sealed vial of poison that will break open at a random time. Now, since no-one knows when or if the poison has been released, until the box is opened, the cat can be thought of as both alive and dead.

PENNY: I’m sorry, I don’t get the point.

SHELDON: Well of course you don’t get it, I haven’t made it yet. You’d have to be psychic to get it, and there’s no such thing as psychic.

PENNY: Sheldon, what’s the point?

SHELDON: Just like Schrodinger’s Cat, your potential relationship with Leonard right now can be thought of as both good and bad. It is only by opening the box that you’ll find out which it is.

The Big Bang Theory, Series 01 Episode 17 “The Tangerine Factor”

This interaction from The Big Bang Theory sitcom was my introduction to Schrodinger’s Cat. But I had vague recollections of a similar story in Anne of Green Gables (actually a sequel called Anne of the Island, which I didn’t recollect reading). Anne and her friends attempt to gas a stray cat, but it doesn’t go to plan.

..when the box was lifted in the morning, Rusty bounded at one gay leap to Anne’s shoulder where he began to lick her face affectionately. Never was there a cat more decidedly alive.

“Here’s a knot hole in the box,” groaned Phil. “I never saw it. That’s why he didn’t die..”

Till they take the box off the cat, they assume that the cat is dead. It’s been enclosed in a box with gas, surely it will die. But they hadn’t considered all the circumstances, they didn’t know about the knot hole in the box.

What does that cat have to do with Mr Elton and Mr Collins?

Like Sheldon explains to Penny, a potential relationship “can be thought of as both good and bad.” You could say the same about men, we don’t know how they’ll react till they’re in the situation.

Rape is non-consensual sexual contact. Would Mr Elton or Mr Collins go so far? We don’t know. What we do know, is that they both refuse to hear no, when quite clearly spoken by the woman they are proposing to.

Emma’s situation is particularly precarious, trapped alone in a carriage with a man who refuses to listen to her then acts like a petulant child when she finally gets through to him. Lizzy at least is in her parents home which, despite her mothers wishes, offers some level of protection.

Had Pride and Prejudice and Emma been written by another author these scenes may have developed very differently. Consider Tess of the d’Urbervilles a novel about a woman being blamed, scorned and ostracised for a physical act she did not consent to. That is literally the whole point of the book, I still can’t understand why we’d read it (I read it for university), let alone consider it a classic.

Perhaps Austen is commenting on clergymen, supposed to be pillars of society but more interested in aggrandising themselves. Or she may be reminding us that we can’t trust even those who have a direct line to god (sadly, a lesson many learned).

What is evident throughout her writing is her awareness of the plight of women. Maria Rushworth is cast out of society for her affair but Mr Crawford can walk into any drawing room he likes. Lydia Bennet would have been ruined, and her family along with her, had Mr Darcy not paid Wickham to marry her. Willoughby doesn’t provide for his child (to a woman who is a child herself) and is free to marry a wealthy woman, casting aside Marianne Dashwood, another young woman he seduced (though thankfully not physically).

Mr Collins and Mr Elton highlight that men may not ask for consent, they may turn a deaf ear to a refusal. In different circumstances, instead of being rejected suitors, could they become rapists?

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Pleasure vs Joy

Reading Living the Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron I came across this quote which really stuck with me;

Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within.” – Eckhart Tolle

In a lot of ways pleasure is easy to find; a hot shower, a cup of coffee (if you drink it, I don’t), good chocolate, a hug. Joy is something deeper and doesn’t necessarily need a cause in the same way that pleasure does.

I’ve found joy in being myself. When I lean into my neurodivergence, don’t try to be “normal” and follow my passions it’s so much more than pleasure. There’s a lightness that comes with joy and an ease.

Patting a dog gives me pleasure; being the person that wants to engage with every dog and give them that pat is the thing that gives me joy. You could say it’s about intention or situation rather than what you do.

In short: Be you. Find joy.

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Celebrating 30 years of Jane Austen

1995 was 30 years ago. Let that sink in.

That was the year of the revival of Jane Austen. BBC released the hugely popular adaptation of Pride and Prejudice, there were movie versions of Persuasion (with Amanda Root) and Sense and Sensibility (directed by Ang Lee, written and starring Emma Thompson). Plus we can’t forget, what I’ve heard many Austenites refer to as the most true adaptation of Emma, Clueless. This was followed by two (more historically accurate) adaptations of Emma in 1996.

After the success of Pride and Prejudice, Andrew Davies become known as the adaptor of Jane Austen for the screen. His very weird worrying wild wonton Sanditon is the culmination of his years of work, leaving Austen entirely behind. But can anything really move further from Austen than Pride and Prejudice and Zombies? (Definitely check out that movie adaptation, the liberties they’ve taken with its source material enhance the concept.)

Austen Societies across the globe swelled, where they existed, and popped up, where they didn’t. Sadly, it took almost 20 years before New Zealand followed suit (that was me btw).

2025 is not only the 250th anniversary of Austen’s birth, it’s the 30th anniversary of her rebirth. Because there seems to be an adaptation of Pride and Prejudice every decade, it’s also the 20th anniversary of the 2005 adaptation (with Kiera Knightley). As this was a movie, rather than a television series, it’s showing in selected theatres to celebrate.

In 2005 I watched the movie at Reading Cinemas in Courtney Place (closed since 2019 but rumour has it that it’ll reopen) which was conveniently next door to my office. I refuse to comment on whether I skipped out during a work day to watch an Austen movie for the first time in a theatre. Today I’ll watch it from a reclining seat at the Queensgate movie theatre, appropriately attired.

If you love Jane Austen check out the upcoming events for the Austen Society