This scene in the 2022 Netflix adaptation of Persuasion is extremely awkward, intended to be funny, no doubt. It’s likely that people would have allocated places at the dinner table, either according to rank or as directed by the hostess. No one would wander the table trying to find a place. Nor would a lady be forced to pull in her own chair, if there was no gentleman to help, then a servant certainly would.
The lyric speaks of feeling out of place which Anne certainly does, she’s trying to find her footing with people she’s usually comfortable around. In the novel she plays at the pianoforte so Captain Wentworth can dance with the Miss Musgroves’, her eyes filling with tears as she, and any eligibility she may have, is ignored. Captain Wentworth is still aware of her, he asks whether she dances and in the above scene he watches her, only sitting once she’s found her seat.
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And then there’s Kitty Bennet…
Austen describes Kitty as “weak-spirited, irritable, and completely under Lydia’s guidance.” Lizzy attempts to warn her father of the danger of Lydia’s character out in the world and highlights how much Kitty, though two years older, is influenced by her.
Our importance, our respectability in the world, must be affected by the wild volatility, the assurance and disdain of all restraint which mark Lydia’s character… Her character will be fixed; and she will, at sixteen, be the most determined flirt that ever made herself and her family ridiculous… In this danger Kitty is also comprehended. She will follow wherever Lydia leads. Vain, ignorant, idle, and absolutely uncontrolled!”
Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice, C41
Lizzy turns out to be more right than she could have imagined. Kitty is so heavily involved in Lydia’s schemes that the elopement is “not wholly unexpected” by her. When Lydia is married Kitty is left drifting, she no longer has a stronger character to lead her.
At the end of the novel:
Kitty, to her very material advantage, spent the chief of her time with her two elder sisters…her improvement was great…removed from the influence of Lydia’s example, she became, by proper attention and management, less irritable, less ignorant, and less insipid. From the further disadvantage of Lydia’s society she was of course carefully kept…”
Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice, C61