Lizzy and Charlotte are the best of friends

It’s painful to read (later) about the friends drifting apart. There is a “restraint” and Lizzy is sure there can never be “real confidence” between them once Charlotte accepts Mr Collin’s proposal. They maintain contact after the marriage:

..their correspondence was as regular and frequent as it ever had been: that it should be equally unreserved was impossible. Elizabeth could never address her without feeling that all the comfort of intimacy was over; and, though determined not to slacken as a correspondent, it was for the sake of what had been rather than what was.”

Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice, C26

Lizzy never really acknowledges her position of privilege, not only does she have more money than Charlotte, she’s younger and more attractive too. She begrudgingly accepts the marriage, though she never tells Charlotte, later (in a startling disclosure to someone she isn’t close with) she says to Darcy:

I am not certain that I consider her marrying Mr. Collins as the wisest thing she ever did. She seems perfectly happy, however; and, in a prudential light, it is certainly a very good match for her.”

Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice, C32

At Hunsford Lizzy gives “Charlotte all the credit” for the interior of the house and admires her way of managing Mr Collins, not only does she send him often into the garden to get him out of the house (allowing him to be forgotten) but:

When Mr. Collins said anything of which his wife might reasonably be ashamed…Charlotte wisely did not hear.”

Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice, C28

Charlotte has made a good choice for herself, she knew she didn’t have options and could manage Mr Collins which we see her doing. In this adaptation once Lizzy visits Hunsford it’s as though all is forgiven. But in the book it seems Lizzy never really forgives her for marrying Mr Collins rather than remaining a spinster in case someone better came along. It would be interested to see what choice Lizzy would have made in Charlotte’s circumstances.

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Write for the rubbish bin

First drafts should be “long and incoherent and hideous” according to Anne Lamott (Bird By Bird). She talks about any writers greatest fear is being hit by a bus and leaving an awful draft behind for people to discover. I think her book is also where I learnt the concept of writing for the rubbish bin.

One of my long term writing clients really struggles with the blank page. Once they’ve got words it’s easier. But no words? No way. We recently got to the root of this issue; perfectionism. They want every sentence, every word, they write to be good.

Unfortunately that’s not how writing often goes. Though I do know some people who’s first draft is better than my fifth (you know who you are), it’s rare. We write crap, then we edit or rewrite till it’s better.

Writing for the rubbish bin means to write as though you’re going to throw it out anyway. But then you don’t. When you come back to it later (whenever that is) you may find it wasn’t as terrible as you thought. Some of it may be salvageable, all of it may be salvageable with a little editing or some tweaks.

We are our own worst critics and that stops us from achieving. I’ve met many people who write better than me, first draft or tenth draft, but they don’t allow themselves to finish. They are reaching for the unattainable.

Traditionally published books still have the odd typo; that little fighter than managed to stay there through several edits by the author, editor and publishing house. It happens.

What I’m working on with this writing client (and also a coaching client) is to create something imperfect. Make perfectly messy progress. If we fuck up, that’s how we learn. But if we’re too scared to try then we never learn to walk (or write).

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Mr Bingley is Enchanted to meet Jane

Mr Bingley has real Labrador energy which comes through so clearly in this adaptation. His watching Jane like an infatuated school boy is somehow adorable rather than creepy. He is very clearly Enchanted to meet her.

Jane is modest and doesn’t realise she’s “about five times as pretty as every other woman in the room” as Lizzy puts it. She’s flattered and didn’t expect Mr Bingley to ask her to dance a second time (only two dances were allowed), but Lizzy did. Lizzy has also overheard Bingley praising Jane as “the most beautiful creature”. Even Darcy can’t deny it and calls her, in his cynical way “the only handsome girl in the room.”

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Austenism: A Loss Can Be a Gain

…a loss may be sometimes a gain”

Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey C28

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Catherine had never before considered that in losing something you can gain, this is despite all that’s gone on with Isabella. In the General’s absence, they feel freedom, lack of oppression. With Isabella out of the picture Catherine can focus on true friendships, people that care about her rather than using her to assuage their boredom or get access to her brother.

A death can bring people closer, make you appreciate your own life. Loss of a job may mean time to work on other projects, focus on what’s really important or finally get some rest. Perhaps the cliché is true; there’s a silver lining in every cloud if you look for it.

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Catherine is worried Mr Tilney loves someone else

Catherine is briefly worried Mr Tilney loves someone else (only in the adaptation, not in the book)

In the novel when Catherine sees Miss Tilney with Mr Tilney she  “immediately guessed (her) to be his sister” thereby (as Austen disappointedly points out) not having a dramatic moment of “turning a deathlike paleness and falling in a fit on Mrs Allen’s bosom.” Considering what other ideas Catherine has during the course of the novel, it’s a big deal to show so much maturity and sensibleness.

.. it had never entered her head that Mr. Tilney could be married; he had not behaved, he had not talked, like the married men to whom she had been used; he had never mentioned a wife, and he had acknowledged a sister.”

-Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey C8

The lyrics fit so well here, she’s devastated thinking Mr Tilney is in love with someone, then the moment she realises the lady is his sister the night is sparkling again. (I should probably use this song for her meeting Mr Tilney at some point)

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Willoughby Thinks About Marianne

Willoughby could not hear of her marriage without a pang… he long thought of Colonel Brandon with envy, and of Marianne with regret…he always retained that decided regard …and made her his secret standard of perfection in woman; and many a rising beauty would be slighted by him in after-days as bearing no comparison with Mrs. Brandon.”

Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility, C50

Many of us want our exes to still think of us, to regret their behaviour and/or the break up. Marianne has the ultimate revenge; not only is she whole heartedly devoted to her husband (success is the best revenge after all) but Willoughby can’t forget her.

It’s debatable whether it was hard for Willoughby to leave Marianne. Though “he strongly partook of the emotion which over-powered Marianne” in their last individual meeting, it was his choice to leave and not propose as he has intended. He may have been fooling himself thinking that he would propose, he certainly had no issues abandoning Eliza Williams – perhaps his involvement with her, a much younger woman, puts him in the category of groomer with Wickham.

It should be noted that Austen does have a thing about men with the initial “W.” As discussed in a podcast episode she sends two Williams to sea, she doesn’t like either Sir Walter or William Walter Elliot in Persuasion (though Wentworth skirts this trend). Amme asks, quite reasonably, what William hurt her? Someone with the initial W did at some point.

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And then there’s Isabella Thorpe…

She thinks she’s captured Captain Tilney when she dismisses her current fiancé, James Morland. In the 2007 adaptation they show her faith in Tilney was due to them having a physical relationship, a faith which she quickly looses as soon as the deed is done. I like to think the last frame of this video is her thinking of James in regret.

Isabella asks Catherine, her friend and James’ sister, to intervene on her behalf, completely unaware that Catherine already knows she’s jilted James.

I am quite uneasy about your dear brother, not having heard from him since he went to Oxford; and am fearful of some misunderstanding. Your kind offices will set all right: he is the only man I ever did or could love, and I trust you will convince him of it.”

Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey, C27

It’s likely that Isabella, whether she slept with the Captain or not, will long think about James Morland and what she lost.

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Book Review: Emmett

Review of Emmett by L. C. Rosen

In the tradition of Clueless this adaptation of Jane Austen’s Emma is set in a rich kids high school. In fact Emmet would slide right into Bronson Alcott High; he’s also very like Cher – aware of his privilege, trying to do good, but pretty clueless. The Mr Elton character even responds to Emmet’s attempting to match him with “Harriet” with “as if.”

Earlier in the year I attended a script reading of Em by Sam Brooks, also a queer take on Emma with a main character named Emmet. (Someone please stage this play and invite me, I beg you.) So the name and concept is having it’s time.

I adore (most) Austen adaptations and have a soft spot for those that include diversity, which this has in spades. It’s an upbeat book but doesn’t shy away from the difficulties of sexuality, family, loss and the façade of social media. Once you get past figuring out who each character represents (took me till mid way to recognise Miss Bates) the sense of anticipation is electric; you know what’s coming, but they don’t. Oh, and the delight when you predicted correctly!

Reading about teens having sex is uncomfortable (reading about anyone having sex is uncomfortable for me) but it’s never literally shown and messages of physical and emotional safety are central. The difference in how Gen Z conduct relationships than previous generations is summed up pretty well. “I didn’t profess my undying love for you… I offered you some sex. It’s not a big deal.”

Emmet is a wonderful modernisation of Emma; they share a philosophy of ‘the ends justify the means.’ He congratulates himself on a job well done when he only made one over-worked person pass out.

The Worst Thing Emma Ever Did

This is one of the most supremely uncomfortable scenes in any Austen novel (for me, at least). Emma allows her flirting and bad mood to get out of hand to the extent that she insults Miss Bates who, though ridiculous, she should respect.

When I last watched the 2020 adaptation I so clearly heard the lines from Betty, that longing to be forgiven, that hopefulness mixed with despair that you may never be able to make things right.

I’m standing on your doorstep and it’s finally sinking in”

-Taylor Swift, Betty

It is probably the worst thing Emma does in the course of the novel, as Mr Knightley says;

You, …whom she had seen grow up from a period when her notice was an honour, to have you now, in thoughtless spirits, and the pride of the moment, laugh at her, humble her – and before her niece, too – and before others, many of whom (certainly some,) would be entirely guided by your treatment of her.”

-Jane Austen, Emma C43

(You could argue her convincing Harriet to not marry Mr Martin was worse, but Harriet can make her own decisions and here Emma is not only influencing a large group but directly insulting someone.)

It is a painful but necessary scene. Emma begins to consider her behaviour to others, their feelings, and grows because of it. Had this not happened she wouldn’t mature to be an appropriate partner for Mr Knightley.

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Bridget gets wasted and has a flashback of her relationship

Technically this isn’t Jane Austen but Bridget Jones is inspired by Pride and Prejudice. Bridget gets drunk to deal with her boyfriend/boss getting engaged to someone else (he’s the Wickham character) and flashes back through their relationship. It’s quite fitting that after this scene she does go on to “try” to get over him and get her life together.

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Anne is alone in a crowded room

So many parallels in these lyrics to this scene! (Persuasion C7)

TS: “Now I’m standing alone in a crowded room…”

JA: “…the room seemed full, full of persons and voices”

TS: “…and we’re not speaking”

JA “she heard his voice; he talked to Mary, said all that was right, said something to the Miss Musgroves”

TS: “And I’m dying to know, is it killing you…”

JA “Now, how were his sentiments to be read? Was this like wishing to avoid her?”

TS: “…like it’s killing me?”

JA: “…a thousand feelings rushed on Anne, of which this was the most consoling, that it would soon be over.”

Taylor Swift’s favourite colour: purple

Jane Austen’s: reportedly turquoise

Happy that I love both these colours but green was the closest I could get here.

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